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DOES IT HURT TO DIE?
Today was Mitchell Crams wake back in Carleton Place.He was 23 years old and a friend of my sons.I remember these kids when they were but wee peapods shuffling down the ice wobbling on their sometimes too big hockey skates.It feels like yesterday.
Mitch Cram died last Friday night at the age of 23.Driving alone on the Ashton back road he hit black ice and rolled three times and was thrown out of the car.Today Wednesday,it is almost a week later and I cannot stop thinking about it.Thinking what every mother would think.It could have been my son.Instead it is Ed and Sandra’s son and I would give anything to give them their son back.Anything to give Cassandra her boyfriend back.Anything to give Jonathan, Adrian and Nicholas their brother back.But I can’t and I mourn for their loss 3000 miles away.
My friend Maureen went to see them the other night and she felt the same way.Her son Daniel like me was looking at the picture of his car on the internet and was wondering if it hurt to die.Did his friend Mitch suffer in the accident? All he could think about, like me, was that he did not want Mitch to be in pain and have to die in the cold and the snow alone.
Not all deaths are painful except for those of us that are left behind to deal with the loss and that is more emotional pain, real enough but not deadly. Try to remember that pain usually sets in hours after the trauma of injury and gets more painful before it gets better. There have even been people who did not know they had been shot until it was pointed out to them.I can contest to that living in the hood..:)The shock of seeing the wound, blood, etc, is so surprising that once noticed the pain sets in immediately. Strange the way the brain works. Death, in and of itself, isn’t painful, its the injury that brings about death that hurts.
It didn’t hurt to be born (well as a mom I can argue that one) so I do not think it hurts to die.I am trying to reasure myself Mitch did not feel any pain.I just know he was scooped up by angels and he is all looking down at us now from heaven,telling us all not to be sad.I know that is so cliche,but I can bet my bottom dollar he is.
God rest his soul and prayers for his family.
Linda
